Playa love

topic posted Sun, October 3, 2004 - 9:27 AM by  Jessica
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Don't ya think its crazy the friendships and love affairs that are begun on the playa. An intellectual take on the whole thing: you should read this article.. you are in a state of limerence. www.isi.edu/gost/brian/e...s/limerence.html
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  • Re: Playa love

    Sun, October 3, 2004 - 11:04 AM
    yep....that link doesn't work.... try again :)
    I'd like to read the article.... I met many special somebodys at BM... but there is one that has peaked my curiosity because he has traveled to see me and I am traveling to go see him.... YAY!!!! for new friends that understand where I'm coming from ;)
  • Re: Playa love

    Sun, October 3, 2004 - 4:01 PM
    Interesting.

    Without going on and on....and on (let alone re what's what, what was that?!! on the playa) about some merits or shortcomings of the definitions and differentiations under "limmerance, I would recommend folks look to Stendhal's L'Amour (On Love) as a perhaps (seems to me)more substantial, more insightful exposition, though by no means last word on the subject: definitely a classic.

    Stendhal coined more or less a seemingly more complex and depthful term and elaboration in that work, known as "crystallization," drawing a metaphor from a tale of what is known as "The Salzburgh Bough," where a hunk of tree branch was retrieved from a deep mine shaft, with crystals upon crystals all over it: being in love, lightning struck, gifted with a true love relationship (apart or as distinct from loving) goes on and on....and on with little of but just enough of one's choice in the matter (he he).
    • Re: Playa love

      Sun, October 3, 2004 - 7:04 PM
      this is one of my favorite love poems (Kahlil Gibran from the Prophet--one of the most excellent books in the world besides maybe Johnathon Livingston Seagull):

      Then said Almitra, "Speak to us of Love."
      And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them. And with a great voice he said:

      When love beckons to you follow him;
      Though his ways are hard and steep.
      And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
      Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
      And when he speaks to you believe in him,
      Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
      For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
      Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
      So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
      Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
      He threshes you to make you naked.
      He sifts you to free you from your husks.
      He grinds you to whiteness.
      He kneads you until you are pliant;
      And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
      All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
      But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
      Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
      Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
      Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
      Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
      For love is sufficient unto love.

      When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart," but rather, I am in the heart of God."
      And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.

      Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself.
      But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
      To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
      To know the pain of too much tenderness.
      To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
      And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
      To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
      To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
      To return home at eventide with gratitude;
      And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.


      Thanks y'all. It has been too long since I've read this passage! It has reminded me of all the reasons to love and be loved, isn't that what life is all about anyway? loving, learning, living... (so the poem got me a bit sentimental...)
      • Re: Playa love

        Thu, November 18, 2004 - 1:42 AM
        That is an awesome poem; thankyou for sharing. My friend, a wise - but not too old - indian from Uruguay, once counselled me as we were both going through breakups at the same time: "Consider yourself lucky to feel such pain and such depth of emotion. It is a blessing and a gift. Imagine how bland life would be if you didn't feel this pain and the joy of love."
        • Re: Playa love

          Sun, November 21, 2004 - 10:31 AM
          you are most welcome. i love all things love including the painful lessons. life is definetly richer and more fulfilled.

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